Hey friends! I’m super excited about today’s post, since it’s something I’ve been focusing a lot of my life towards for the past few years now. I truly feel that implementing this mindset has led me to many of the best adventures in my life, including moving to Portland! It’s been about two months now but in case you weren’t aware of this geographical change – now yah do!
Living intentionally. The mindset is unique for everyone, with its own set of rules and values, but at the end of the day, it simply means to be conscious of your life and decisions! I believe that when I started to focus on living a more intentional life, I had a much better understanding of myself as a human as well as my life goals and purpose. I began working this mindset into my life super gradually, and by constantly questioning my thoughts and choices. Being a little tough on yourself can give you a lot more clarity than letting everything slip by aimlessly. If this sounds like something you might want to start implementing , or if you’re just wondering what the heck I’m talking about, feel free to take a peek at below at a few questions that I now consider before making decisions.
If you take away anything from this blog post, the “why” is the largest and most important factor when becoming more intentional. It can also be the most difficult, because there are times when you don’t know exactly why you want something, or you have to admit to yourself that the reason is coming from maybe…. not the best of places. But keep in mind, it’s okay! The whole point is to recognize these trends, so you can improve them in the future.
Sometimes we want something because it’s what everyone else is doing or because it seems like the easiest and most second nature choice at the time. By asking yourself, “why”, it helps get to the root of why exactly you’re making that decision. A few examples. Why am I eating this right now? Is it because you’re actually hungry or because you’re stressed or sad? Why are you being mean to your friend? Did they actually do something wrong that you need to voice or is your anger reflecting other negativity going on in your life? Why do I not like my job? Is it because you’re in the wrong career path or because you don’t mesh with the company? Asking questions like these, has helped me solve an array of common problems in my life as well as avoid future ones.
2.) Will My Future Self Thank Me For This?
This advice came from another fellow blogger and digital friend of mine, Kaitlin Mackenzie. We’ve never actually met in person but we chat online all the time and graduated from the same college! Just another reason why I love this community. She mentioned this in one of her stories a very long time ago but it’s stuck with me ever since. Whether it’s getting out of bed, working out, or eating that last Girl Scout cookie that I KNOW will put me over the edge, I’ve never been very good at self control. Lately I’ve started to ask myself, “will my future-self thank me for this?” right before I’m about to make a poor decision, and it works a majority of the time! It’s easy to be impulsive in the moment because at that time it’s what you REALLY want. But when you take a second to empathize with your future self, you have the time to think of what will benefit you long term.
Does this Align With My Highest Self?
If you want to learn a bit more on the “highest self” and delve more into the spiritual side of this, I highly recommend Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Podcasts! In my normal people terms, I would say, “aligning with your highest self”, basically means to recognize your place in the universe. There’s a lot more to it than this, but for the sake of the length of this post, we’ll go off that blurb for now. I started moving towards my highest self by recognizing when I was judging others or getting mad or anxious for unknown reasons. Dissecting these feelings made me realize that I could save a lot of time and energy on exciting/happy things vs. comparing myself to others who are on a completely different path than me. We’re all doing our own thing, and being respectful of that has changed my views forever.
Thanks all for tuning! Something I think that’s important to note is that I’m no where near perfect at the intentional lifestyle, and I think it’s a 100% different process for everyone. I’m all about betterment, and living a life you love, and for me intentional living is helping me achieve that.
As usual, would love to know your thoughts and if this resonated with you in some way! Don’t forget to follow me at @kaitjanes for more adventures!
Have a Delightful Day,